*Disclaimer* This blog is not about me ranting. This is about my thoughts on this whole situation that’s been going on for the past couple days, and I want to take some time and leave my thoughts about some of the situations that happened. Anyone offended by this blog, please exit. That’s the only thing I ask for you to do.
There are times that I don’t even want to blog on situations like this. Hell, this area happens to be a “grey zone” for me because this has actually happened to the party that’s writing this blog, but something about this whole “sex scandal” down in Fort Myers has hit a nerve with me, and it’s making me wonder about a few things on top of that.
Yes, I did say “Sex Scandal” because something like this did happen at a High School. For those of you that may have seen it on the news, you know what happened. For the ones that don’t know, here is a link.
Thanks to one of my cousins, who happen to be an alumnus at this school, I was fully aware on this situation and the only thing I can do was shake my head. Why on earth did a 15 YEAR OLD GIRL have to do something like this? Why on earth did she have to stoop down to this level knowing the consequences? The first one that came into my mind was “Peer Pressure” and reading this article, that did set off some alarms I had in my head.
Peer Pressure seems to be a big issue these days and yes, I happened to go through that stage where everyone around the age of 15 was “moving fast”. I’m going to take you to that grey area and talk about the time where this happened.
November 2005, my freshman year of High School.
Prior to coming to High School, I had a lot of issues with self-esteem, in which by the way, I still deal with it to this day. I wanted to shed the image of me being the girl who didn’t go out with anyone because she kept to herself half the time. During first semester of Freshman Year, I went out with someone. I didn’t tell my mom because at the time, she and I were fighting all the time. The only person I told was my dad and my grandparents, but of course, bad jokes had to go down and it wasn’t even funny what was said.
The relationship was not really a fairy tale princess like one. It was one based on looks where I had to straight my hair, wear make-up, and where certain clothes to make him happy. That was not my type of style, but I had to do it in order to be “cool”. The whole thing was mental abusive and at one point, got psychical where he shoved me into a locker. Again, that’s where the whole “peer pressure” thing came about because I didn’t want to leave him.
There was an off day for school and it was the same weekend, Eddie Guerrero passed away. I was going to my brother’s last football game of the year for Saint Charles. Prior towards that, I was supposed to be hanging out with him. I gave him my house number because at the time, I didn’t have a cell phone (Again, mom didn’t want us to have cell phones due to “Texting” being high at the time). The plan was supposed to be call around a certain time, so I would leave my house and get there. Hours passed, no call, and I made the decision to stay home, which turned out to be the best decision I made because if that phone call was made, god knows what might’ve happened.
Let’s just put it this way, the relationship wasn’t meant to be and I dumped him a couple of days after Thanksgiving and let everyone aware that this boy shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone because he’s abusive and will judge you to make you something you don’t want to be.
That’s my story, but now back on topic regarding the girl.
Like I said, we don’t know why she would go into a bathroom and do something like this with two dozen boys. We don’t know the issues that go around at home. The parents really need to know what their kids are doing after school as well and REALLY should talk about their children about having sex and what could go down at a young age.
Of course there are going to be ignorant fools out there that are going to assume stuff. There were a couple of statements I had to roll my eyes at such as “I know what career she’s going to have when she gets older”.
The poor girl’s going to have to live with the rest of this through her entire High School Life and into her adult years. We don’t need to assume and with the day in age of social media such as twitter and snapchat where there was a video of this going down, people are going to say stuff about her to make it even worse.
In conclusion of my blog, 16 of the 25 were disciplined for this, but that’s not enough and another thing I question about this whole situation, why didn’t the girl press charges? That’s one question I really want to know, but at the end of the day, I really can’t say much because I don’t know the girl personally to say much more.
Thanks for reading.